I talk to a girl at Facebook and she is always asking my advice on how to help her boyfriend out. Now, normally I wouldn't answer stuff about this issue as I believe that telling people what to do, craft wise, is not a good thing as it stops you from finding your own way and stunts your own craft-style from being found. General queries are fine, but giving out stuff to be said by rote (that you haven't had any input in creating) well, to me it feels all wrong.
But that's maybe just me... every time I've done stuff "from a book" it either feels very wrong or never works.
Anyway, I received this message yesterday and I felt I couldn't just leave her twisting in the wind:
My bf is in a really horrible position... he was beaten and neglected as a child and he is really sad right now where he is at he is always in a bad mood and he is never happy :( it makes me sad because i want to help him but i really dont know how, do you know any chants or spells i can do to clear negative energy from his life? And I just really want him to be okay so I really want an effective spell and I dont really have that many tools to do spells but I am very determined to channel all my energy and power to making this work... And if someone says magic can't help then I am officially giving up on the craft.
I sent her this reply, and I wonder where most of it came from? I just started typing and before I knew it the message was almost ready to go (apart from the words "aura cleansing", I couldn't think of the name and had to google for help, and while I was reading about it the part about catching the ash come up so I "borrowed" it and added it in to stop her from setting herself on fire, lol).
Seeing as all types of incense give me a headache it's not something I could ever perform myself, neither have I done it in the past, so how I got this in my head, I have no idea (very weird).
The rhyme I added as people seem to like them and I do find that something that rhymes sticks in my head and I remember it much easier than just words (of course when doing something "ab lib" normal words are all I have and they work just as well, but the poet in me seems to routinely prepare stuff that rhymes, so I have it and I use it).
This is the second time I've sent her something to do for her man and I'm wondering why she singled me out? Maybe my name (at FB I am minty.the.pagan), but her very first message to me was asking for help with her fella, and she always sounds so desperate to help him out, and he seems to have so much emotional baggage! I suppose if she does it and gets results, then it's all good :o)
Magic will only get you so far, hun, the rest has to come from within himself. It's a bit like going on a journey, the transport cannot take you there if you don't get to the transport in the first place.
Smudging is good for clearing negativity from buildings and places and I'm sure it can do the same for people. It's called "aura cleansing" and it helps to get rid of all the nasty emotions and other things we pick up throughout our lives.
You need to buy smudge sticks (your local craft supply store can help you there) and then you need to sit him down, or a picture of him or something else of his and imagine a protective circle of white of violet light surrounding you all and keeping all bad thoughts and things out. Then light the smudge stick (following the instructions) and walk around the object you are cleansing, wafting the smoke about them as you go... kind of "push" the smoke into the person/object and as the smoke rises visualise all of the negativity and past hurt getting caught up in the smoke and being carried away with it (you will probably need to open a window, or preferably perform this outside so that the smoke can freely flow away from you).
You could say a few words whilst you do this, but it's not really necessary, the smoke will do it for you. However, if you feel the need to say something to focus your mind, you could repeat:
"Smoke that cleanses, smoke of peace,Bring back joy, make badness cease."
Keep saying this for as long as you need to or until the smudge stick goes out.
If you cannot find smudge sticks, then stick incense is just as good, either your favourite scent or something known for healing like lavender.
One tip: if you are walking around holding burning things please remember to carry something to catch the ash that they will drop (all over the floor if you don't catch it... been there, had to clean the carpet when the ash fell on it).
I wish you many blessings, and your boyfriend is very lucky to have someone that is so ready to help him heal... however, the craft cannot cure everything and anyone that tells you that it can is lying. If your bf is not ready to let the negativity go then the spell will have no effect... the spell can only aid those that are ready to move on... it can help you to release things, it cannot force you to do so.
