The conversations started to get more intense each time we spoke, and I checked his profile and it said "single" so I was fine for the talk to get more personal. He told me how unhappy he was with his life and that he was desperate to leave where he was. We even discussed sexual things (not that it mattered much to me, but I followed the conversation where it meandered). He said I was beautiful, and talked about coming to see me one day.
Yesterday he gave me his private email address and I gave him mine... all was going well until I went to his profile again, to look at his picture in his photo album and I saw something that shocked me to the core... in the relationship status section, instead of "single" as it used to say it said "in a relationship with" and it was the name of someone else!!
He lied to me when he said he was single, he's been in a relationship this whole time! He said that all the things he'd ever say to me were honest, but he lied from the start. I sent him this message:
"Just checked your profile and it says you're in a relationship... why didn't you say anything? I wouldn't have said so many personal things to you had I known that you were taken :o("
He sent back:
"sorry"
I replied with:
"So am I, and I'm sure when we first started chatting that your status said single... I wouldn't have said the things I did had it said otherwise.
How long have you been together? Were you ever going to tell me or just keep talking to me as if there could have ever really been something between us? I now don't believe anything you've ever told me, including when you said I was beautiful. You said you'd always be honest with me, and yet if I hadn't checked your profile you'd still be lying to me right now!
You have no idea just how much you've hurt me because you lied! I had genuine feelings for you... I'm so stupid!"
Then he sent me this:
"hey i did tell u i was in one"
He didn't say anything about that! I would never have said some of the things I did to him had I known he was involved with someone else. I wouldn't have allowed myself to believe there could really have been something between us had I known he was with someone else. I wouldn't have been so open about my asexuality with someone I didn't think was serious about me.
After he sent that final message he removed me as a friend, and he appears to have blocked me as I can no longer see his profile... it's like he never existed. So the final message I typed to him, that I couldn't send I actually posted as my status, for everyone to see, and I named him, too:
I wonder if I hadn't gone to his profile to see his picture if he'd still be talking to me now? Probably he would, as he was shameless enough to talk to me and lie from the beginning... I just don't know how people can do that! It's such a callous and cruel thing to do :o(
