Why do I seem to be attracting people that end up talking to me like shit?!
Yet another short, black guy contacted me tonight (he was 5'8") and below is the entire conversation between us... (his name is Obypedia and I go by the name Araminta there):
obypedia
hi araminta
8:04PM
obypedia
nice photos
8:06PM
obypedia
can u handle what i've got?
8:09PM
araminta
are you still here?
8:15PM
araminta
my messages are not going through
8:17PM
obypedia
really, why?
8:17PM
araminta
stuff I'm typing is not coming up on here lol
8:17PM
so, what have you got then?
obypedia
dat will be tellin
8:21PM
so why ask if I can handle it
obypedia
what do you do?
8:23PM
araminta
work with kids... you?
8:23PM
obypedia
broadcast engineering
8:24PM
obypedia
working with kids must be stressfull, how do u cope?
8:25PM
araminta
luckily they are mostly at school lol
8:26PM
obypedia
just curious, as a woman is kissing women cheating?
8:27PM
araminta
I think it depends on the seriousness of the relationship you're in
8:29PM
some people would say yes
obypedia
what about u
8:29PM
araminta
if I were in a relationship with a guy then yes, I would consider it cheating
8:31PM
araminta
she kissed another woman and tried to make light of it?
8:32PM
obypedia
like u were there, anyway that's past tense
8:33PM
araminta
I'm sorry she did that, it was wrong of her, the fact it was another woman doesn't change anything
8:34PM
obypedia
how long can u last in bed b4 u start screaming bodyache?
8:36PM
araminta
I don't know, I've never tried it lol
8:36PM
obypedia
what' u on about? u're kidding right
8:37PM
araminta
nope, no one has ever been interested lol
8:38PM
obypedia
hey ya, never mind, i don't think they jnow what they're missing
8:40PM
araminta
lol, people say the same about me
8:41PM
obypedia
but i'm serious, else won't be chatting
8:42PM
araminta
serious about what?
8:43PM
obypedia
about my words, we must mean what we say when we speak the word.
8:45PM
araminta
I'm confused, hun...
8:46PM
obypedia
u're very funny, u know.
8:47PM
araminta
seriously I'm confused... I'm not trying to be funny
8:49PM
obypedia
yeah, let's cut d chase I love big women okay, if u're good then we can have fun together.
8:54PM
araminta
I'm not looking for anything casual, sorry about that
8:55PM
and you have a damn cheek even asking, by the way
obypedia
i understand but don't let anyone promise u anything serious over the internet without meeting u in person. i'm just being honest. let the relationship escalate gradually, then u can see true love.
8:59PM
araminta
I am, sorry
9:24PM
I don't ask for anyone to promise me anything hun, just be nice to me
obypedia
where 've u been?
9:25PM
araminta
sorry, I was talking to my parents
9:25PM
obypedia
of course i'll be nice to u, do ulive with ur parents?
9:26PM
araminta
I do, and my sister and her boyfriend
9:27PM
obypedia
what about ur privacy?
9:28PM
araminta
I have my own room, and I have nothing to really keep private lol
9:29PM
why would I need privacy?
obypedia
relationship?
9:33PM
araminta
never had one
9:33PM
obypedia
do u want to have one with me?
9:34PM
araminta
I don't even know you hun, it's far too early to say yes or no
9:34PM
obypedia
tht's what i meant earlier.
9:36PM
araminta
about what? you confuse me, you really do
9:38PM
obypedia
okay, let's make this simple, what do u really want?
9:40PM
araminta
I want friends... maybe something more, time will tell about that one
9:41PM
no one has ever wanted me in that way ever
obypedia
u gave up on sex? well we can just be friends.
9:43PM
araminta
I never gave up, I've never had it lol
9:44PM
obypedia
do u want to?
9:44PM
araminta
I don't know, I've never thought about it
9:45PM
sex is something beautiful people do and I'm not beautiful lol
there is nothing sexy about me hahaha
obypedia
stop saying that, i think u're gorgeous
9:47PM
araminta
you're very sweet to say that
9:48PM
I guess I just don't see it, so I always just try and be everyone's friend
obypedia
u're sweet and u need to accept it.
9:53PM
araminta
I don't think I'd be a very good girlfriend lol
9:53PM
obypedia
give it a try, there is a first time 4 everything.
9:55PM
araminta
true... but I think I've left it a bot late now lol
9:55PM
obypedia
u're just 34yrs, time to catch up.
9:56PM
araminta
there are so many things that I've never done... I've never even been kissed and that is just so sad!!
9:57PM
obypedia
u can start with me, i can show u
9:59PM
araminta
you're very sweet to offer
9:59PM
I think I'd need to love the other person very much first, though... sounds silly but that is the way my mind works lol
obypedia
who's the other person?
10:05PM
araminta
I don't know yet... only Fate knows who that is at the moment
10:06PM
obypedia
stop bullshiting
10:07PM
how am I bullshitting in not knowing that!
I'm not a damn psychic you know
care to explain your comment?
so this is you behaving like my friend? being rude to me and then ignoring me when I'm trying to talk to you?! Some friend you are... I guess it means that you are not the one for me, then... lucky escape for me then as you have no manners or class! Goodbye
obypedia
baby, get rid of fear, and be adventurous. try sex, may be not with me but try it.
10:19PM
araminta
so I have to try something I don't want?
10:20PM
I have to spread my legs and be "adventurous"... why would I do that?! Make myself a slut because you recommend it!! I don't think so!!
and you still didn't answer my question about what I'm bullshitting about either
obypedia
everything, if u don't try it, u will never have th experience
10:23PM
araminta
I'm bullshitting about nothing... and if it meant going with someone that didn't love and respect me then I'd rather not bother!
10:24PM
why would I give that part of myself to someone that didn't give a shit about me!! That makes no sense at all
obypedia
i agree with u completely
10:25PM
araminta
then what are you talking about?!
10:25PM
I came on here to meet new friends and see if anything developed from there and all I seem to be meeting are guys that only care about what I have in my knickers!! It's not what is that important to me!
obypedia
fair enough
10:29PM
araminta
you are the fourth person to talk to me like that in the last week, it's getting very boring
10:31PM
I'm beginning to wonder why I'm even bothering trying to find anyone, I haven't done well so far!
obypedia
a bit of adjustment in attitude will help, stop blaming other people
10:38PM
araminta
blaming other people for what? for talking to me like shit, and my attitude is fine until people take the piss and then I get angry and I'm not sorry for that!
10:42PM
so people can treat me with no respect and I have to change my attitude?! Give me a break!
araminta
so come on then... how could I change my attitude?
10:46PM
obypedia
stop thinking negative, love is about sacrifice, what u write is scary, u may think u're being protective, but make an effort.
10:49PM
araminta
what I write is scary? now who is talking bullshit, and how can I make an effort? Make an effort about what? Pretend to be someone I'm not just so that I don't come across as "scary". I think I have a right to protect myself against people that are not genuine in their intentions, don't you?!
10:52PM
Love maybe about sacrifice, but it is also about treating people with respect and not being a bully in trying to make others do tings they are not comfy with.
what YOU write is scary to me, as it shows me that you are only out for yourself and what you can get from someone else!
my sister is in love and she says love is about compromise, not sacrifice
obypedia
okay, wordplay, how nice
10:57PM
araminta
you should know... you've done nothing but try and bullshit me with ridiculous words all evening!
10:58PM
do us both a favour and don't talk to me anymore... you have nothing to say that I wish to hear... speak to me again and I'll report you!
I have no idea just why I seem to be getting contact from such utter creeps lately... and it makes me feel like not bothering anymore as all I seem to be getting is grief and hassle and I don't want it!
I also got messaged from an Italian guy, who was only 5'7"... what is wrong with me in that I seem to be getting attention from the guys that don't interest me?!?! It may seem shallow, but I like tall men, and honestly to see me walking about with a guy that was not only smaller then me bodily but also smaller then me in height would look so ridiculous!
Maybe the short guys like the idea of dating a huge Amazon or something, but I'm not interested in that at all! I could never be anything more than friends with guys shorter than me, I just couldn't... and if it would mean having to be alone or be with short men that talk to me like shit, well I guess I'll be single forever because I'm never going to tolerate people talking to me like that in real life. I will end up smacking them one for it!!
