Some people have a nerve!

I posted a convo from Facebook for a  friend to see the other day here. It included a picture, a distressing picture that I do not like... but my friend doesn't have Facebook and I wanted him to see the conversation and the picture that started it all off as it concerns someone we both once considered a friend.

I get a notification here saying I have a comment. I go to read it and it's from a person I don't even know, have never heard of let alone spoken to ever, saying this:

1. Luna Buteo20 June 2012 14:05
   
   By all means record the conversation. But why copy the photo too? Can you not see how wrong it is to even do so?!ReplyDelete
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   Minty20 June 2012 16:23
   
   
   I copied the conversation as a whole, and I recorded it as a whole for context. Seeing as this is my blog I can do as I please. I was also allowing a friend that doesn't have Facebook to see how a former friend of the both of us treated me. Not that it's any of your business!
   
   
   Seeing as I have no idea who you are I fail to see why you felt the need to comment. In future please don't bother as I do not need to be further scolded by a stranger.
   
   
   If it offends you that much don't read it. Simple really... the exit door to this blog is that way ---> Don't let it hit you on the way out!

Never have I ever come across the blog of someone I don't know, and then left a reply on a post of theirs if it has offended me. I just leave and think no more of it. Some people seem to feel that they just have carte blanche to comment about situations that are none of their business. I have a disclaimer in the comment to the left... if people fail to read that and get offended, tough shit. As I've said, I was recording it for a friend... why I have to constantly justify myself and my actions to people that I DON'T FUCKING KNOW is really starting to piss me off!

If anyone feels offended in future and wishes to leave a comment, saying how much they are offended by something I have recorded on my own damn blog do yourself a favour AND DON'T FUCKING BOTHER. GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT!!

Failing that, give me the link to your own blog and at least give me the ability to come and comment on your entries they way you feel you have the right to reply to mine! Fair's fair.

HOW DARE HE!!

Just goes to show how little you know someone that you thought you'd known for years.

I shared a picture on FB... it said that for every share Facebook would donate a dollar. So I shared it. (Sorry, I know it's not nice, but I'm documenting the nasty conversation that sprang up because of it).

Minty Autumn Ede shared Nakakainis Yung Taong Huling-Huli Mo Na. Nag dedeny pa :/'s photo.

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    Herne Oakshield · Friends with Tas Mania and 7 others

    Sorry Minty but you've been had... Facebook isn't going to donate a dollar for every time this photograph is shared. and I feel incredibly sorry for this childs parents that their baby is being used in such a sick way. I believe the facts of this baby's condition were that he had a reaction to the Hep B injection unfortunately he died as a result of ths reaction. The babies name was Ian Larsen Gromowski and I am sure his parents will be horrified that his image, his memory is being disgraced in this way. it took me all but two minutes of searching online to find this poor kids story.

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    Herne Oakshield · Friends with Tas Mania and 7 others

    please report this photograph to Facebook as Spam/ Scam don't be one of the 3000+ who shared it around..

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    Kerry Wilson There is a lot of share for donation hoaxes doing the rounds just now. Some innocent other are viruses but I agree that it is sick the way these people are exploiting the pictures of vulnerable children to tug at heartstrings of caring members.

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    Herne Oakshield · Friends with Tas Mania and 7 others

    Have a look at this group https://www.facebook.com/StopSickChildrenHoaxes/timeline?filter=3

    

    Stop Sick Children Hoaxes

    Question: Have you seen, 'liked', or worse 'Shared' a photo showing a sick child...See more

    Page: 1,219 like this.

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    EarthDancer Earthie It's very hard for me to see things like this. My grandson Jeremiah passed away at 10 days old from a vitamin K deficiency in his blood....he bled out but not until they tried every single thing that they could to help him. He too looked like this little wee one and I can't imagine people using something so awful to make a buck. It's sickening and sad. So glad someone is trying to put a stop to this.

    11 hours ago · 

This isn't the first time that, Herne has come back with a reply like this... he also used to do it to my Mum as well. It just strikes me as being so condescending and like he's trying to make me look like a fool. Why I have no idea. He could have sent me a private message telling me it was a scam... I had no idea it was, why would I? I have no idea why anyone would use a child to scam people.


Then I posted this and went to bed, not waking until the people putting up the scaffolding next door woke me at just before half ten... and you can see what he said to me!

Minty Autumn Ede

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• Whatever! I'm off to bed.

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      Jo Ede Sounds like a good idea to me too that does my girl. Think its time for another rethink on the douchbags on the friends list tomorrow..

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      Minty Autumn Ede Yep... you could be right there :o)

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      Herne Oakshield · Friends with Tas Mania and 7 others

      can I ask you to please delete the post of the photograph relating to the scam before you go. if the douchbag comment is aimed at me Jo, I can delete minty if she would rather not have me on her Flist. but I will say this I will not stand b...See more

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      Tim Martin Sleep sweet! And I think both of you are just awesome. Love & light my lovelies!

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      Paula Boyd ‎@Hearne if the post bothers you just the hide story and poof.. its gone,no reason to get all nasty with these two great ladys!!!

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      Herne Oakshield · Friends with Tas Mania and 7 others

      ‎@paula I generally do just ignore the majority of rubbish people post on FB but when it a graphic photograph of a dying baby is shared around, when the image is used to scam people and that childs memory is disgraced I don't see why I should just remain quiet.However since Minty has decided to continue to use this dead child on her Facebook wall and shown no decency at all and removing it as any normal decent person would she is obviously not the person she pretends to be. and as I said I will not just stand by and watch a dead chiold be exploited like this by anyone without saying something. how must this childs parents feel knowing that their childs photograph is being used to propagate a lie, to propagate spam and a scam, and that when people find out the truth they just don't give a shit.

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      Minty Autumn Ede ‎@Herne. Seeing as I've just got back online after going to bed it appears you are the one that lacks comment decency! I hardly think you are in any position to speak about 'normal decent people' seeing you are obviously not one yourself so how the hell do you purport to speak from their perspective!
      
      How dare you say I'd intentionally exploit a child, moreover a child that has tragically died. How rude!
      
      You could have come to me privately and informed me that is was a scam... instead you chose to yet again post a condescending and belittling reply and somehow use the fact that I didn't know it was a hoax to make me look stupid and yourself like some kind of 'factual crusader'.
      
      I thought I was helping a child, forgive me for not knowing beforehand that people are sick and twisted enough to do things like this. In future I shall run everything I share through you first as I am obviously far too naïve to be trusted in matters like this.
      
      The status was nothing to do with you, not everything is – however I can do nothing about any paranoia you may have.
      
      If you wish to delete me, that is your choice – being honest I'm not fussed either way... I un-subscribed from you long ago as your bitching and whining bored me to tears.
      
      Seeing as I've known you for years I had hoped that you would have had enough respect for me to not reprimand and scold me in public for mistakenly posting something that proves to be erroneous... obviously I was wrong. Obviously YOU are not the person I thought YOU were.
      
      If you wish to go I shan't stop you. I honestly gain nothing from your 'friendship' – you no longer know me well enough to demand I remove things from my profile. If I remove it I also remove your link proving it erroneous, which is why I left it standing.
      
      One final thing – DO NOT EVER SPEAK TO MY MOTHER LIKE THAT AGAIN! She would have even less idea than me that people would do such vile things.
      
      Don't bother replying as you have nothing to say that I give a shit about hearing. Just delete me from everywhere and then go and moan somewhere about why you have no friends... hardly surprising really when you treat one of the few you do have like this!

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I wouldn't have minded if it had been said to me privately, and I had hoped that the years we had known each other (and all the help I'd given him in the past) would have counted towards being treated with more respect than I have been shown. Obviously I was wrong!

On checking my FB he has un-friended me. Can't say I'm sorry... in fact I was surprised that he did as I asked (people usually don't lol).

Wow, long time between updates.

I wish I could say that my life has been a hectic whirlwind of fun and laughter, with barely a moment to sit down and catch my breath... but alas it has just been the same old mundane routine, only with the added bonus of finding out that I'm totally out of work around the end of November (date yet to be confirmed!)

After doing the same job for about 20 years, and feeling thoroughly drained and fed up I've decided to take some time out when the current children leave... I just can't do this anymore and I need a break (Mum feels the same and we work together). We will be able to survive, although things will be tight, but I have to say that I'm looking forward to having some peace and quiet and not having to keep "watching the clock" for school pick-ups! Christmas will be a no present affair, but with the fifth anniversary of Nana's death on the 26th of December, christmas has long been a time of mourning for me. Christmas is really for kids anyway, and I only used to look forward to it for having the tree up with the lovely lights, and also the time off that we always got then.

The dating sites are a total waste of time and I don't visit them anymore except when I get rare messages. I had one guy that I didn't even know message me insults one Friday night (so I assume he was drunk... or just a dickhead, he soon got a piece of mind in return and also reported and blocked). Then I had a guy called Jose track me down from one site for larger women (that I joined and forgot about), to Facebook... and then he found me at a separate dating site as well (stalker much?!) The funny part was he got pissed off when I refused his offer of going out for a cup of tea (that was his first message, like I'd say yes to meeting a total stranger!). Then he got pissed off because I didn't ask him out anywhere... I don't even ask my friends out so why he thought I'd ask him is beyond me altogether lol... and then he got pissed off when I asked him to stop bothering me and he said that I was actually bothering HIM! hahaha. When I pointed out that he was the one that tracked me down at three different places, he had the gall to call me "pathetic." My reply to him was this:

Being pathetic yourself I suppose you recognise the same trait in others. Just piss off and leave me alone. You started talking to me, you found me at other places. Just get over yourself, get a life and get out of mine. I want nothing to do with you so just GO AWAY! 

A little harsh, maybe, but I no longer have patience with people that feel that I owe them something, when I actually owe them nothing. I tried to be nice and I'd asked him to not bother replying to me as he had nothing to say that I wished to read (and that got the "pathetic" response)... and I just lost my temper and let him have both barrels, so to speak. I then changed my Facebook settings so that people have to be at least "friends of friends" in order to send me messages (and not "everyone" that I had before), and I blocked him from the last site he followed me to (I didn't bother with the first site as I'm not a full member and can't read messages without paying them money which I'm not doing anymore).

I'm quite looking forward to Samhain (although as usual I completely forgot about Mabon and only remembered when people sent me "Blessed Mabon" pictures online lol! (did I mention that I'm a lazy pagan hehe). Samhain is different as I pay my respects to my passed over family... it's more personal somehow for me and I at least have to light candles for each of those that I have loved and lost. Then it's Bonfire Night, with the free fireworks display and then it's Yule and the New Year. The year seems to have whizzed past and we are back to the cold weather again (though hopefully not a repeat of the snow and ice we had at the beginning of the year!)

A question about the term "fluffy" in Paganism

There was a question asked, about just what "fluffy" means (at a forum I used to go to all the time, but which I rarely go to anymore as I feel as if I now longer belong there as I'm not "Pagan enough!")

I was going to reply to the thread, but upon reflection I really didn't feel comfortable enough in doing so and so I'm posting it here instead (no doubt someone would have remarked about my post not actually replying to the question of the thread, and I just cannot be bothered in people arguing with me over it). My reply:

I'd be very surprised if there were any "fluffies" in the Valley, this place tends to knock that out of people very quickly! I know it did with me!

Reading the definitions of "fluffy" here made me laugh... and I fall into the "fluffy" spectrum in a good few areas (although not in my belief about angels and fairies, I don't believe in them). In regards to some of them I'm a very bad Pagan and probably should stop using the term in regards to myself as I don't appear to be Pagan enough.

Personally, I don't care how fluffy someone is, and it's taking me years to counteract the negative programming I received here towards terms like blessed be and merry meet (and subsequently my opinions of people that use them, too... when you are told enough to scorn the terms, eventually you end up scorning the people that use them as well, which is wrong!)

These days I don't care what people believe, I just care about how they treat me and others. It matters more to me. If people want to believe that all fairies are like Tinkerbell and are happy little pixies that only do good for people, who cares? Who are they hurting by believing that? No one (and if the Fae are offended by that I'm sure they are more than capable of doing something about it, not that I believe in the Fae, either).

People should have the right to believe whatever the hell they want, and none of us have any rights to tell them that they can't (or treat them as somehow lesser for holding beliefs we disagree with... that would make us elitists).

I would have posted it there, but there would be no point, I'd either be ignored or I'd be dog-piled and have people having a go at me for saying it and I truly can't be bothered with that kind of treatment! I seemed to routinely either get ignored or treated as somehow lesser for voicing my opinion over there in the past, so I no longer bother anymore (in fact I left for the longest time and returned a few weeks ago to find most of the people that seemed to take umbrage at my mere prescence had been banned, but there are still a few left). I just don't feel as if my opinions matter so why should I post anything there?!

I can honestly say that the only things I learned there were how to look down on people for believing things that I was meant to find ridiculous and how to be very cynical and condescending regarding people that dare to say things that are frowned upon (like merry meet and blessed be).

It is being back at places like that that make me not want to be pagan at all... if I'm meant to believe some of the things that they all believe I'd rather not bother with any of it!

They are fine with people believing in whatever they want, unless they don't agree with it and then you shouldn't believe it! I truly don't give a shit anymore... if people want to worship a clown riding a yellow unicycle round and round in a circle, that is up to them and as long as they don't tell me I have to believe in it too, it's all good.

I sometimes wonder if it's places like that that help make me so confused sometimes... if enough people tell you you're wrong for thinking a certain way, eventually you start to believe them so that you feel like you belong! It reminds me of the story of The Emperor's New Clothes, where anyone that couldn't see the wonderful fabric was a fool... and as no one wanted to be thought of as a fool they went along with the charade even though the King walked the streets stark naked!

I'm not prepared to spend my time defending my opinions against people that have no right to question them, so it's better for me to just stay away from those people!!!

I had sad news over the weekend...

... I found out one of my online friends, Koko, had died. I'd known her for years, but had lost contact with her a couple of years ago. I was searching for her for a friend and I found a newspaper article from her local paper saying that she had died (she tried to stop two horses from fighting, was  kicked and died instantly).

I told all of the people that I knew (that also knew her) and one of them confirmed it was indeed my friend. She was only 46 years old and left behind a husband and daughter (that I think is now in her early twenties). So sad.

I did manage to light a candle, and later, when I caught sight of the moon, I asked Selene to take care of Koko and let her have a peaceful rest in the Summerlands before she returns to us. For some reason it just seemed like the right thing to do.


In other news...

I have more or less given up on the dating sites, all I end up doing is chatting to people I don't really want to talk to (but I'm too polite to ignore messages lol). Only one guy is still sending me messages and I really wish he'd stop, but I don't have the heart to tell him so.

I've not been well recently, and I have no idea just what is wrong. I feel dizzy, light-headed and when I took my blood pressure the other day it was 115/61 (the average reading should be 120/80) so it's quite low. I just wish I could stop my stomach from hurting, it's really beginning to annoy me  *sigh* I just feel constantly as if someone has punched/kicked me in the stomach and it's getting really old now!

The rioting seems to have ended as abruptly as it began, and hopefully all those arrested for looting and criminal damage will be harshly dealt with by the justice system. I have no time for people that go out of their way to cause misery to others because of their own selfishness!

Why are some men such liars!!

I've been talking to a guy called Bobby for about a month over at Facebook. He had been a Farmville friend for months before he started speaking to me (which he did when I started using my actual picture as an avatar).

The conversations started to get more intense each time we spoke, and I checked his profile and it said "single" so I was fine for the talk to get more personal. He told me how unhappy he was with his life and that he was desperate to leave where he was. We even discussed sexual things (not that it mattered much to me, but I followed the conversation where it meandered). He said I was beautiful, and talked about coming to see me one day.

Yesterday he gave me his private email address and I gave him mine... all was going well until I went to his profile again, to look at his picture in his photo album and I saw something that shocked me to the core... in the relationship status section, instead of "single" as it used to say it said "in a relationship with" and it was the name of someone else!!

He lied to me when he said he was single, he's been in a relationship this whole time! He said that all the things he'd ever say to me were honest, but he lied from the start. I sent him this message:

"Just checked your profile and it says you're in a relationship... why didn't you say anything? I wouldn't have said so many personal things to you had I known that you were taken :o("

He sent back:

"sorry"

I replied with:

"So am I, and I'm sure when we first started chatting that your status said single... I wouldn't have said the things I did had it said otherwise.

How long have you been together? Were you ever going to tell me or just keep talking to me as if there could have ever really been something between us? I now don't believe anything you've ever told me, including when you said I was beautiful. You said you'd always be honest with me, and yet if I hadn't checked your profile you'd still be lying to me right now!

You have no idea just how much you've hurt me because you lied! I had genuine feelings for you... I'm so stupid!"

Then he sent me this:

"hey i did tell u i was in one"

He didn't say anything about that! I would never have said some of the things I did to him had I known he was involved with someone else. I wouldn't have allowed myself to believe there could really have been something between us had I known he was with someone else. I wouldn't have been so open about my asexuality with someone I didn't think was serious about me.

After he sent that final message he removed me as a friend, and he appears to have blocked me as I can no longer see his profile...  it's like he never existed. So the final message I typed to him, that I couldn't send I actually posted as my status, for everyone to see, and I named him, too:

"To Bobby Downs, who appears to have blocked me so I can no longer send you messages, you spineless coward and liar:* No, you did not tell me you were already with someone! I would never have said the things I said to you had I known you were in a relationship! And why would you be saying the things you've said to me if you already have someone in your life?! Say them to her, not me. * Arsehole!!!"

I wonder if I hadn't gone to his profile to see his picture if he'd still be talking to me now? Probably he would, as he was shameless enough to talk to me and lie from the beginning... I just don't know how people can do that! It's such a callous and cruel thing to do :o(

This has been a really shitty evening

First of all my cat jumped out of the front room window when I left the room, he then ran away up the street when I went out to get him. Seriously, I just don't care anymore! He has no collar on or anything and he was out on the main road and ran to a break in the houses and sprinted down the alley into the back gardens... I just hope he stays round the back and didn't double back and cross the road. I hope he gets scared, and when he gets back in the house he can have his uncomfortable collar put back on and get over it!! I can't even worry tonight as I'm too pissed off  >:o(  <--- angry face

One thing I'm certain of, though, once these cats die I am never getting another cat, ever! I just can't be bothered in caring for creatures that give nothing back anymore. If anything I'd rather get a dog, at least they come when you call them.

Then I had this conversation on MSN... I've been talking to the guy for a week and I cannot believe the gall of the man!! (he told me he quit his job as the company were forcing those that wanted to stay to go to Aberdeen and he refused to go, so resigned).


raymond says:
 Yeah...but there is something i did like to ask you pls..

Minty says:
 sure

raymond says:
 I know it seems as if you dont know much about me or something...but i just feel you are nice person and someone i could talk with..though i am shy and have never done this before..
 but..its just the way things are for me at the moment...
 i'd like to ask of your favour to help me out with the amount to renew my badge..
 and i promise to be able to pay you back by the end of next month..cuz i will definitely get a job with it in no time..i already seen an agent whos helping out on that...

Minty says:
 how much are you asking for?

raymond says:
 its just 300quid..
 though its not..but its money..

Minty says:
 I'm afraid I don't have that kind of money to spare, that is our food budget for the entire month... I'm sorry

raymond says:
 well, perhaps you could help with something even if its 200..i will try to empty my account then..cuz i just sent some money to my dad for his health issues..
 i just feel like sht right now..
 really need a lady in my life..at least for now..and for ever..it really takes two to tango sometimes..

Minty says:
 I afraid I can't give you any money, I have to feed my family, especially my disabled father... I'm sorry

raymond says:
   *sigh*

Minty says:
 I really wish I could help

raymond says:
   thanks ...but... if you could help with some amount..then i will try ask my mate some too..
 because him too need some money to do his own too..
 its just the money i sent to dad that makes me 'skinny' for now..lol and its really affecting me..
 sometimes i feel like disowning him as a father..for joining the gay sht

Minty says:
 I can't even afford to get my sister a present for her 21st birthday in July, and what is so bad about being gay?

raymond says:
 hes got anal cancer innit

Minty says:
 so, Farrah Fawcett died of that and she wasn't gay... anal cancer isn't only for gay men

raymond says:
 huh... but at least its part of it and it contributes..its not 100% moralistic for a responsible person to do

Minty says:
 that is like saying that having sex with men gives women cervical cancer... there is no connection between the two. And I don't believe there is amything immoral about being gay... to me love is love and it doesn't matter who people love

raymond says:
 anyway..its libel and wrong to have prejudice about anyones orientation..
Minty..now my eyes feel sleepy..and i have to sleep now..i will try to wake up early to see a mate before he leaves for work tomorrow..
 i thought you did like to wish me sweetdreams...

Minty says:
 ok, you take care... and for the simple fact that you asked me for money and then had a go at gay men I'm blocking and deleting you as I can't talk to people that try and take advantage of others and that are intolerant of other peoples' sexuality. Good luck in life, and I wish your father a speedy recovery, and a more tolerant son in the future! Sweet dreams



Does he think I'm stupid?! Even if I were a millionaire I wouldn't give him money, purely for the gay-bashing bullshit!! If he thought that would convince me to give him the money he was wrong, very, very wrong... nothing could have made me more determined to not give him a penny! Even when I said that £300 was the money for the food to feed my family he still kept asking... so my family can go hungry so that he can get a badge that will let him become a security guard!! I don't think so! HAHAHAHAHA.