Wow, long time between updates.

I wish I could say that my life has been a hectic whirlwind of fun and laughter, with barely a moment to sit down and catch my breath... but alas it has just been the same old mundane routine, only with the added bonus of finding out that I'm totally out of work around the end of November (date yet to be confirmed!)

After doing the same job for about 20 years, and feeling thoroughly drained and fed up I've decided to take some time out when the current children leave... I just can't do this anymore and I need a break (Mum feels the same and we work together). We will be able to survive, although things will be tight, but I have to say that I'm looking forward to having some peace and quiet and not having to keep "watching the clock" for school pick-ups! Christmas will be a no present affair, but with the fifth anniversary of Nana's death on the 26th of December, christmas has long been a time of mourning for me. Christmas is really for kids anyway, and I only used to look forward to it for having the tree up with the lovely lights, and also the time off that we always got then.

The dating sites are a total waste of time and I don't visit them anymore except when I get rare messages. I had one guy that I didn't even know message me insults one Friday night (so I assume he was drunk... or just a dickhead, he soon got a piece of mind in return and also reported and blocked). Then I had a guy called Jose track me down from one site for larger women (that I joined and forgot about), to Facebook... and then he found me at a separate dating site as well (stalker much?!) The funny part was he got pissed off when I refused his offer of going out for a cup of tea (that was his first message, like I'd say yes to meeting a total stranger!). Then he got pissed off because I didn't ask him out anywhere... I don't even ask my friends out so why he thought I'd ask him is beyond me altogether lol... and then he got pissed off when I asked him to stop bothering me and he said that I was actually bothering HIM! hahaha. When I pointed out that he was the one that tracked me down at three different places, he had the gall to call me "pathetic." My reply to him was this:

Being pathetic yourself I suppose you recognise the same trait in others. Just piss off and leave me alone. You started talking to me, you found me at other places. Just get over yourself, get a life and get out of mine. I want nothing to do with you so just GO AWAY! 

A little harsh, maybe, but I no longer have patience with people that feel that I owe them something, when I actually owe them nothing. I tried to be nice and I'd asked him to not bother replying to me as he had nothing to say that I wished to read (and that got the "pathetic" response)... and I just lost my temper and let him have both barrels, so to speak. I then changed my Facebook settings so that people have to be at least "friends of friends" in order to send me messages (and not "everyone" that I had before), and I blocked him from the last site he followed me to (I didn't bother with the first site as I'm not a full member and can't read messages without paying them money which I'm not doing anymore).

I'm quite looking forward to Samhain (although as usual I completely forgot about Mabon and only remembered when people sent me "Blessed Mabon" pictures online lol! (did I mention that I'm a lazy pagan hehe). Samhain is different as I pay my respects to my passed over family... it's more personal somehow for me and I at least have to light candles for each of those that I have loved and lost. Then it's Bonfire Night, with the free fireworks display and then it's Yule and the New Year. The year seems to have whizzed past and we are back to the cold weather again (though hopefully not a repeat of the snow and ice we had at the beginning of the year!)

This has been a really shitty evening

First of all my cat jumped out of the front room window when I left the room, he then ran away up the street when I went out to get him. Seriously, I just don't care anymore! He has no collar on or anything and he was out on the main road and ran to a break in the houses and sprinted down the alley into the back gardens... I just hope he stays round the back and didn't double back and cross the road. I hope he gets scared, and when he gets back in the house he can have his uncomfortable collar put back on and get over it!! I can't even worry tonight as I'm too pissed off  >:o(  <--- angry face

One thing I'm certain of, though, once these cats die I am never getting another cat, ever! I just can't be bothered in caring for creatures that give nothing back anymore. If anything I'd rather get a dog, at least they come when you call them.

Then I had this conversation on MSN... I've been talking to the guy for a week and I cannot believe the gall of the man!! (he told me he quit his job as the company were forcing those that wanted to stay to go to Aberdeen and he refused to go, so resigned).


raymond says:
 Yeah...but there is something i did like to ask you pls..

Minty says:
 sure

raymond says:
 I know it seems as if you dont know much about me or something...but i just feel you are nice person and someone i could talk with..though i am shy and have never done this before..
 but..its just the way things are for me at the moment...
 i'd like to ask of your favour to help me out with the amount to renew my badge..
 and i promise to be able to pay you back by the end of next month..cuz i will definitely get a job with it in no time..i already seen an agent whos helping out on that...

Minty says:
 how much are you asking for?

raymond says:
 its just 300quid..
 though its not..but its money..

Minty says:
 I'm afraid I don't have that kind of money to spare, that is our food budget for the entire month... I'm sorry

raymond says:
 well, perhaps you could help with something even if its 200..i will try to empty my account then..cuz i just sent some money to my dad for his health issues..
 i just feel like sht right now..
 really need a lady in my life..at least for now..and for ever..it really takes two to tango sometimes..

Minty says:
 I afraid I can't give you any money, I have to feed my family, especially my disabled father... I'm sorry

raymond says:
   *sigh*

Minty says:
 I really wish I could help

raymond says:
   thanks ...but... if you could help with some amount..then i will try ask my mate some too..
 because him too need some money to do his own too..
 its just the money i sent to dad that makes me 'skinny' for now..lol and its really affecting me..
 sometimes i feel like disowning him as a father..for joining the gay sht

Minty says:
 I can't even afford to get my sister a present for her 21st birthday in July, and what is so bad about being gay?

raymond says:
 hes got anal cancer innit

Minty says:
 so, Farrah Fawcett died of that and she wasn't gay... anal cancer isn't only for gay men

raymond says:
 huh... but at least its part of it and it contributes..its not 100% moralistic for a responsible person to do

Minty says:
 that is like saying that having sex with men gives women cervical cancer... there is no connection between the two. And I don't believe there is amything immoral about being gay... to me love is love and it doesn't matter who people love

raymond says:
 anyway..its libel and wrong to have prejudice about anyones orientation..
Minty..now my eyes feel sleepy..and i have to sleep now..i will try to wake up early to see a mate before he leaves for work tomorrow..
 i thought you did like to wish me sweetdreams...

Minty says:
 ok, you take care... and for the simple fact that you asked me for money and then had a go at gay men I'm blocking and deleting you as I can't talk to people that try and take advantage of others and that are intolerant of other peoples' sexuality. Good luck in life, and I wish your father a speedy recovery, and a more tolerant son in the future! Sweet dreams



Does he think I'm stupid?! Even if I were a millionaire I wouldn't give him money, purely for the gay-bashing bullshit!! If he thought that would convince me to give him the money he was wrong, very, very wrong... nothing could have made me more determined to not give him a penny! Even when I said that £300 was the money for the food to feed my family he still kept asking... so my family can go hungry so that he can get a badge that will let him become a security guard!! I don't think so! HAHAHAHAHA.

Ok, what am I missing here?

People keep saying they find me sexy, and beautiful and that I turn them on and all sorts of other words and phrases and I just don't understand how. Below are the pictures I use at the dating sites I frequent, and I just don't see anything sexual about them:

I do not see anything sexual about these pictures... the middle one is always the one I use for an avatar on sites, the top one is the newest one of me and the bottom one is of when I had black hair last year (I miss that colour hair). I can kind of see the allure of the bottom one because of the red lips, but the other two? Really? What am I missing here?

Granted I'm not wearing my glasses in any of them so my eyes look quite big and I do have make up on in the bottom picture, but I still can't see them as sexual... and how people can say I'm sexy when they haven't seen a picture of me other than my face (long body shot, etc) I fail to understand  **sigh**

This is the only photo I have of me that shows me full body:

Nothing sexual there, is there??

I just don't understand what others see that I don't when they see my pictures  **baffled**

I've just checked the mirror and it doesn't say "slapper" on my forehead!

So if that is the case, then why do so many people think I'm going to jump into bed with them just because they send me a message titled "gorgeous babe"... I don't get it!

**Dating site number three, and this one is completely free, although I think there are probably people here that are even worse than at the paid ones!**

I must be very naive, or innocent (?) as when I say to someone "I like the tattoo on your arm" the last thing I'm expecting by way of a reply is "would you like to lick it?"... erm... no thanks! Why the hell would I want to lick a strange man's arm? I wouldn't lick the arm tat's of people I know, so I have no idea why I'd accept such a ridiculous offer from someone 74 miles away from me LOL!

Then when I decline the offers, both to do the above and have sex with this guy I get told "ur no fun"... we obviously have vastly different ideas about "fun" hahaha. When I replied that I "maybe no fun but I'm also not a slut", he replied that it was ok as he's actually married!! My parting message to him was this:

"Yet you have your relationship status set as "single" and say that you have just had a bad break up? Oh dear."


Gladly I have heard nothing since.


Seriously, are people so desperate that they have to troll for sleazy hook-ups like this? If he wanted "kinky sex" so badly (which he asked me if I was interested in!) why not go and shag his wife? He said he was married, hahaha. Either that or go and find a prostitute... or was he hoping to find someone willing to do it for free!

How fucking RUDE!!

This guy first sent message to me at the dating site asking for my MSN!



Chris says:
 Hey you
Minty says:
 hiya
Chris says:
 Having a good day?
Minty says:
 not really, being surrounded by other people's screaming kids gets a little tiring after a while lol
 roll on 6pm
Chris says:
 hmm   lol. you seem a bit lonely from your profile, but you seem really lovely
 how are you finding the site generally? I've only been on for three weeks and been on a couple of dates
 nobody with that spark yet though Minty! lol
Minty says:
 I just re-read it and it does sound that way, lol
 I've only been a member for about the same time, well a paid member, I joined a few years ago and did nothing about it lol
Chris says:
 are you still single?
Minty says:
 I'm one of those people that only feels lonely when I stop and think about it haha
 yep, always have been
Chris says:
 it is nice though to turn in with someone.. not to mention having a girl to bang   haha. I split up with my ex late last year and don't like being single at all
 always? what, you've never been in a relationship?!
Minty says:
 I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you both
Chris says:
 I'm not, she was awful
Minty says:
 nope, I've never been fussed and no one has ever been interested either (so it worked out for the best haha)
 oh... good news then... but not about the being single part
Chris says:
 how come you've not been fussed?
Minty says:
 I suppose because I've never be bothered about sex and usually prefer my own company lol
Chris says:
 ah-ha
 shall I leave you to it?
Minty says:
 give me a good book and some rock music and I'm set
 I do like talking to people, though
Chris says:
 are you a virgin?
Minty says:
 yep
 I was told I was scary the other day because I admitted it lol
Chris says:
 Do you masturbate?
Minty says:
 not for ages
Chris says:
 that is the strange bit
Minty says:
 lol
Chris says:
 do you get wet?
Minty says:
 I don't see myself as  sexual creature
 no
Chris says:
 if you think about a guy... or girl...( ? ) that you like?
Minty says:
 I don't know, I never really have
Chris says:
 can I say, I think you're missing out
Minty says:
 lol
 I get that all the time
Chris says:
 you're an attractive girl, you could easily get a boyfriend
Minty says:
 thanks
Chris says:
 IF lol
 if you were slightly more chillaxed lol
Minty says:
 chillaxed?
Chris says:
 yeah!
Minty says:
 about what?
Chris says:
 about sex - it's kind of a big deal you know
Minty says:
 I just don't see that part at all
Chris says:
 do you find girls attractive or guys?
Minty says:
 that must be what makes me scary lol
 I do like guys
 guess I don't see me the way others do so I never think about it lol
Chris says:
 I don't think you're scary - I think you're in your shell and it could take months or years for a guy to pull you out of it - and most guys wouldn't have the patience or stand getting rejected..
Minty says:
 makes sense
Chris says:
 if I was a regular guy on a dating site, id think aw shes nice but shes never going to want to do anything
Minty says:
 maybe... I never said I wouldn't, just that I don't much care lol
 I think there are vastly more important things
Chris says:
 but.. but.. you signed up for a dating site
Minty says:
 but that is just me
 to meet friends
Chris says:
 why are you so disinterested when you made the effort to meet people
Minty says:
 maybe se if anything more developed lol
Chris says:
 guys don't want to meet friends and speak for years before possibly maybe going for a drink
Minty says:
 I have no idea
Chris says:
 the two girls i went on a date with in the three weeks ive been on here id spoken to for 2 days. ya need to get out there and meet people Minty
Minty says:
 I'd be willing to go out and do stuff, I'm not a total hermit lol
Chris says:
 the problem is u come across just not bothered at all
 because ur not
Minty says:
 I'm not bothered about sex
Chris says:
 so theres not really much point being on a specialist site for guys to want to find bigger girls
 have you ever kissed a guy?
Minty says:
 so basically then unless I'm willing to shag like a rabbit I should just kill myself then!
 no I haven't
Chris says:
 well no offence but you dont exactly seem happy from your profile
Minty says:
 none taken, trust me
Chris says:
 good luck, its all i can say
Minty says:
 I'm wondering why I'm bothering
Chris says:
 me too
Minty says:
 you are about the sixth guy that has said similar thingd to me in the past two weeks
Chris says:
 yes. it's obviously just that all men are the same and we're all pigs
 that's probably it
Minty says:
 I never said that, and I'll thank you to stop putting words in my mouth!
Chris says:
 I get the feeling you're a feminist
Minty says:
 and?
Chris says:
 so you think that women are superior to men
 and you claim to be straight
Minty says:
 did I say that? no
 I just refuse to allo wmen to dictate to me the things I do
 allow men
Chris says:
 have you considered looking at yourself, what you *really* like, maybe you'll find happiness if you step outside. there are a lot of pretty ladies in the world for you to meet

{he went "Appear Offline" at this point so I have no idea if he got these messages or not... I hope so!}

Minty said (16:14):
 lol... I'm not gay
 and FUCK YOU!!
Minty said (16:22):
 you have to be the most arrogant prick I've ever spoken to... not only are you insulting and incredibly rude, you are also talking out of your arsehole! It
Minty said (16:25):
 It's men like you that make me glad I am single... if ever someone would turn someone lesbian it's a total wanker like you. I'm just really glad that all men are not like you... I'm glad you dumped your ex, at least now ahe is free of the manipulative tosser that is you.
Minty said (16:26):
 If anyone needs good luck for the future pal it's you... you are the one that hates being single... and if you carry on treating people in the shitty way you do now you're going to be a very lonely old man! I can only say that it will serve you fucking right HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!



What a total bastard! How dare he speak to me like this, and I've known him for about thirty minutes!!

Needless to say he has been blocked at MSN and also at the site... just as well he lives in Yorkshire, had he been nearer I might have tried to get some horse manure through his letter box or something LOL!

I have also amended my profile, it now reads like this:

General Information

Hi, my name is Araminta, but people just call me Minty. Militant feminist... closet lesbian... misandrist... scary... abnormal, none of these actually describe me (although all have been thrown at me in the past by men that fail to understand the complex creature that is me... pity them, they are idiots lol). Those that *do* know me describe me as fun-loving, honest, accepting, loving, funny, loyal, helpful, caring and gentle with a dry wit and a good sarcastic comeback. I'm a fairly laid back biped, and am slow to anger (but when I do get up a full head of steam it's best to stand back and just watch me go... just don't get caught up in the fracas and you'll be fine). I love, watching baseball and tennis, cheesy horror/monster movies, rock/metal music, cats, being Goth, cemeteries and my family. I hate football, garlic, the colour beige, parsnips, rude people, R&B, traffic jams, summer heat and earwigs.

Appearance

I'm 5'10 barefoot, so am tall for a woman, have green eyes (proper green, not hazel green) and they are my best feature, wear glasses and have light brown hair. I am always in black and rarely wear heels as I find them uncomfortable (plus they give me the height of a giant and I tend to intimidate people even more than normal... though don't get me wrong, sometimes intimidating people is a good thing haha). I love long skirts and don't wear trousers as I find them uncomfortable, and I guess my style of dress would be best described as Goth-casual.

Looking for

Good question... a friend that is nice, respectful and doesn't talk to me like crap? Someone that is not a sex maniac and is interested in what is between my ears rather than between my legs (I've had guys tell me I should just have sex as I don't know what I'm missing... they fail to understand I don't care! Any man that thinks pressuring someone into doing things they don't want to do is a good thing can just leave me the hell alone already!) Friendship is the most important thing for me at present... regardless of how wonderful a guy looks if I can't stand being in his company then there is nothing there for me! If something more develops through friendship, cool... I'm ruling nothing out, but for me friendship comes first. I admit to liking tall men, but that is purely because I myself am tall. Jerks with one-track minds need not apply! (I do have the phone number of a brothel, though, for those that want/need it... joke).

If I meet no one I am totally fine with that... I'd rather be alone than be used as some kind of easy legover for douchebags! I may not have much confidence, but I do have a sense of pride!!

I think I'll give up the dating sites...

... I don't seem to be meeting anyone that I actually get on with, so why waste my money?!

I met another guy earlier, another black guy but he was 6'6" and seemed nice so I thought I'd give it a chance and see about being friends. Big mistake  **sigh**

Yet again I was more or less called a liar regarding my lack of relationships/sexual experience. Then the guy  seemed to get annoyed when I said my webcam was broken so I couldn't turn it on and let him see me (it's not but I didn't want to turn it on and couldn't think of a good excuse) and he stopped talking to me using the chat function at the dating site... I waited about half an hour and no reply so I said I was going. I then sent a message to him at the site saying I was sorry if I said anything wrong (not sure why I did that, I just hate the thought of people thinking badly of me and I was raised with manners). He sent me a reply saying that I'd said nothing to upset him... and leaving me his mobile phone number! I'm sorry but I'm not spending my money phoning someone that a) I don't know and b) that ignores me for about an hour all told rather than talk to me (he also ignored me on MSN so I said I was signing out as there was no point my staying there to talk to myself!).

Whatever happened to chatting to someone and getting to know them in private messages and at MSN before you expect them to phone you or turn on webcams? Is it too much to ask to start as friends and see if anything develops from there? I thought that was the way people got into relationships... start off slowly and see what happens. I never knew you were meant to know within hours of one half-hearted conversation that you wanted something serious!!

Seriously, why am I bothering... in the past few weeks I've been called a liar, been asked highly personal questions regarding my reproductive abilities, been told I'm a bullshitter, been called scary and been told I should have sex to "be normal"... is this the best I can do? Do I really want to settle for any of the "boils on the backside of humanity" that I have met in the past few weeks? No, I really do not!


I think this is going to be the end of my internet dating site experience... I shan't be renewing either of the subscriptions (which in total amount to £30 a month). I'd rather set fire to the money than keep talking to jerks and douchebags that are not worthy of my time!

And again I end up talking to a jackass!

Why do I seem to be attracting people that end up talking to me like shit?!

Yet another short, black guy contacted me tonight (he was 5'8") and below is the entire conversation between us... (his name is Obypedia and I go by the name Araminta there):

obypedia

hi araminta

8:04PM

araminta

hiya

8:06PM

obypedia

nice photos

8:06PM

araminta

thank you

8:07PM

obypedia

can u handle what i've got?

8:09PM

araminta

are you still here?

8:15PM

obypedia

yeah

8:16PM

araminta

my messages are not going through

8:17PM

obypedia

really, why?

8:17PM

araminta

stuff I'm typing is not coming up on here lol

8:17PM

so, what have you got then?

obypedia

dat will be tellin

8:21PM

araminta

lol

8:21PM

so why ask if I can handle it

obypedia

what do you do?

8:23PM

araminta

work with kids... you?

8:23PM

obypedia

broadcast engineering

8:24PM

araminta

nice

8:25PM

obypedia

working with kids must be stressfull, how do u cope?

8:25PM

araminta

luckily they are mostly at school lol

8:26PM

obypedia

just curious, as a woman is kissing women cheating?

8:27PM

araminta

I think it depends on the seriousness of the relationship you're in

8:29PM

some people would say yes

obypedia

what about u

8:29PM

araminta

if I were in a relationship with a guy then yes, I would consider it cheating

8:31PM

why do you ask?

obypedia

my ex

8:31PM

araminta

she kissed another woman and tried to make light of it?

8:32PM

obypedia

like u were there, anyway that's past tense

8:33PM

araminta

I'm sorry she did that, it was wrong of her, the fact it was another woman doesn't change anything

8:34PM

obypedia

how long can u last in bed b4 u start screaming bodyache?

8:36PM

araminta

I don't know, I've never tried it lol

8:36PM

obypedia

what' u on about? u're kidding right

8:37PM

araminta

nope, no one has ever been interested lol

8:38PM

obypedia

hey ya, never mind, i don't think they jnow what they're missing

8:40PM

araminta

lol, people say the same about me

8:41PM

obypedia

but i'm serious, else won't be chatting

8:42PM

araminta

serious about what?

8:43PM

obypedia

about my words, we must mean what we say when we speak the word.

8:45PM

araminta

I'm confused, hun...

8:46PM

obypedia

u're very funny, u know.

8:47PM

araminta

seriously I'm confused... I'm not trying to be funny

8:49PM

you still here?

obypedia

yeah, let's cut d chase I love big women okay, if u're good then we can have fun together.

8:54PM

araminta

I'm not looking for anything casual, sorry about that

8:55PM

and you have a damn cheek even asking, by the way

I'm not a cheap whore

obypedia

i understand but don't let anyone promise u anything serious over the internet without meeting u in person. i'm just being honest. let the relationship escalate gradually, then u can see true love.

8:59PM

u still there?

u still there?

araminta

I am, sorry

9:24PM

for not replying sooner

I don't ask for anyone to promise me anything hun, just be nice to me

obypedia

where 've u been?

9:25PM

araminta

sorry, I was talking to my parents

9:25PM

obypedia

of course i'll be nice to u, do ulive with ur parents?

9:26PM

araminta

I do, and my sister and her boyfriend

9:27PM

obypedia

what about ur privacy?

9:28PM

araminta

I have my own room, and I have nothing to really keep private lol

9:29PM

why would I need privacy?

obypedia

relationship?

9:33PM

araminta

never had one

9:33PM

obypedia

do u want to have one with me?

9:34PM

araminta

I don't even know you hun, it's far too early to say yes or no

9:34PM

obypedia

tht's what i meant earlier.

9:36PM

araminta

about what? you confuse me, you really do

9:38PM

obypedia

okay, let's make this simple, what do u really want?

9:40PM

araminta

hello?

9:40PM

obypedia

i'm here

9:40PM

araminta

I want friends... maybe something more, time will tell about that one

9:41PM

sex doesn't interest me

never has

no one has ever wanted me in that way ever

obypedia

u gave up on sex? well we can just be friends.

9:43PM

araminta

I never gave up, I've never had it lol

9:44PM

obypedia

do u want to?

9:44PM

araminta

I don't know, I've never thought about it

9:45PM

sex is something beautiful people do and I'm not beautiful lol

there is nothing sexy about me hahaha

obypedia

stop saying that, i think u're gorgeous

9:47PM

araminta

you're very sweet to say that

9:48PM

I guess I just don't see it, so I always just try and be everyone's friend

obypedia

u're sweet and u need to accept it.

9:53PM

araminta

I don't think I'd be a very good girlfriend lol

9:53PM

thank you

obypedia

give it a try, there is a first time 4 everything.

9:55PM

araminta

true... but I think I've left it a bot late now lol

9:55PM

bit

obypedia

u're just 34yrs, time to catch up.

9:56PM

araminta

there are so many things that I've never done... I've never even been kissed and that is just so sad!!

9:57PM

obypedia

u can start with me, i can show u

9:59PM

araminta

you're very sweet to offer

9:59PM

I think I'd need to love the other person very much first, though... sounds silly but that is the way my mind works lol

obypedia

who's the other person?

10:05PM

araminta

I don't know yet... only Fate knows who that is at the moment

10:06PM

obypedia

stop bullshiting

10:07PM

araminta

sorry?

10:07PM

how am I bullshitting in not knowing that!

I'm not a damn psychic you know

care to explain your comment?

hello?

still waiting here...

so this is you behaving like my friend? being rude to me and then ignoring me when I'm trying to talk to you?! Some friend you are... I guess it means that you are not the one for me, then... lucky escape for me then as you have no manners or class! Goodbye

obypedia

baby, get rid of fear, and be adventurous. try sex, may be not with me but try it.

10:19PM

araminta

so I have to try something I don't want?

10:20PM

I have to spread my legs and be "adventurous"... why would I do that?! Make myself a slut because you recommend it!! I don't think so!!

and you still didn't answer my question about what I'm bullshitting about either

obypedia

everything, if u don't try it, u will never have th experience

10:23PM

araminta

I'm bullshitting about nothing... and if it meant going with someone that didn't love and respect me then I'd rather not bother!

10:24PM

why would I give that part of myself to someone that didn't give a shit about me!! That makes no sense at all

obypedia

i agree with u completely

10:25PM

araminta

then what are you talking about?!

10:25PM

I came on here to meet new friends and see if anything developed from there and all I seem to be meeting are guys that only care about what I have in my knickers!! It's not what is that important to me!

obypedia

fair enough

10:29PM

araminta

you are the fourth person to talk to me like that in the last week, it's getting very boring

10:31PM

I'm beginning to wonder why I'm even bothering trying to find anyone, I haven't done well so far!

obypedia

a bit of adjustment in attitude will help, stop blaming other people

10:38PM

araminta

blaming other people for what? for talking to me like shit, and my attitude is fine until people take the piss and then I get angry and I'm not sorry for that!

10:42PM

so people can treat me with no respect and I have to change my attitude?! Give me a break!

obypedia

alright.

10:45PM

araminta

so come on then... how could I change my attitude?

10:46PM

obypedia

stop thinking negative, love is about sacrifice, what u write is scary, u may think u're being protective, but make an effort.

10:49PM

araminta

what I write is scary? now who is talking bullshit, and how can I make an effort? Make an effort about what? Pretend to be someone I'm not just so that I don't come across as "scary". I think I have a right to protect myself against people that are not genuine in their intentions, don't you?!

10:52PM

Love maybe about sacrifice, but it is also about treating people with respect and not being a bully in trying to make others do tings they are not comfy with.

what YOU write is scary to me, as it shows me that you are only out for yourself and what you can get from someone else!

that is not love

my sister is in love and she says love is about compromise, not sacrifice

obypedia

okay, wordplay, how nice

10:57PM

araminta

you should know... you've done nothing but try and bullshit me with ridiculous words all evening!

10:58PM

do us both a favour and don't talk to me anymore... you have nothing to say that I wish to hear... speak to me again and I'll report you!

I have no idea just why I seem to be getting contact from such utter creeps lately... and it makes me feel like not bothering anymore as all I seem to be getting is grief and hassle and I don't want it!

I also got messaged from an Italian guy, who was only 5'7"... what is wrong with me in that I seem to be getting attention from the guys that don't interest me?!?! It may seem shallow, but I like tall men, and honestly to see me walking about with a guy that was not only smaller then me bodily but also smaller then me in height would look so ridiculous!

Maybe the short guys like the idea of dating a huge Amazon or something, but I'm not interested in that at all! I could never be anything more than friends with guys shorter than me, I just couldn't... and if it would mean having to be alone or be with short men that talk to me like shit, well I guess I'll be single forever because I'm never going to tolerate people talking to me like that in real life. I will end up smacking them one for it!!